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What are You Taking In?

Whether you know it or not, your environment impacts you. Everything from your physical environment (like your home office), your media environment (like the shows you watch or the people you follow online), and your social environment (like friendships) influence how you move through the world.

For many years, after I tucked the kids in bed, It was routine for my husband, Scott, and I to watch Law & Order: Special Victims Unit. We would flip on the TV every week to find a fresh new case. And by the end of the episode, the case would be solved- like a gruesome happily ever after. 

But this weekly routine started to produce some strange side effects for me. When we’d click off the TV at the end of an episode, my body would buzz with anxiety. Then I began having trouble falling asleep. And when I did fall asleep, I had a recurring nightmare of being of being out on my morning jog, and then BAM!- someone jumps out of the woods and kidnaps me. 

Finally, I couldn’t take it anymore. I told my husband that he was welcome to enjoy the latest episode alone but that I would be enjoying a sweet romance novel in the other room. That night, I drifted to sleep with visions of two people falling in love at a bed & breakfast instead of someone being bludgeoned to death in a park. So blissful!

It’s so important to evaluate what things in your environment are toxic and sweep that hot mess out of your life. 

My friend Melissa is a writer of Lifetime Movies. You know those terrifying thrillers about stalking, or kidnapping, or other horrific happenings. 

Melissa is a huge fan of my book, BARE, and when she got to the chapter on environmental detox she had a sinking feeling of dread. She’s good at compartmentalizing her movies from her real life. But, Melissa realized that the research phase of her movies, specifically coming up with new ideas was quite toxic. 

Hunting for new ideas, Melissa would spend hours consuming horrifying forums on Reddit, constantly listening to true crime podcasts, and diving deep into the web for grisly tales all for the hopes of inspiring a soon-to-be film. 

Sure, Melissa has to spend a portion of her time researching. But it doesn’t need to consume her entire life. 

Melissa needed to “clean up” – but it wasn’t an “all or nothing” situation. She was able to swap out the toxicity without completely upending her entire career. 

How about you? Is there anything in your environment that’s toxic?

If so, let’s get to cleaning.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • How to identify toxicity in your environment.
  • How to clean out those toxic habits without completely changing your life.

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Susan Hyatt:
Welcome to the Rich Coach Club, the podcast that teaches you how to build your dream coaching practice and how to significantly increase your income. If you're a coach and if you're determined to start making more money, this show is for you. I'm master-certified life coach Susan Hyatt, and I am psyched for you to join me on this journey.
Hey coaches, whether you know it or not, your environment impacts you, big time. Everything from your physical environment, like your home office, your media environment, like the shows you watch, or the people you follow on social media, and your social environment like friendships, all of that influences how you move through the world and in today's episode, I'm sharing a story about something I was taking in that totally did not serve me in any way. Plus I'm sharing a story of a friend who for professional reasons, can't completely cleanse her environment and what she does to keep herself sane and happy.
For many, many years, after I tucked my kids into bed, I had a routine with the silver fox, also known as my husband, Scott. We would sit on the couch, snuggle up with some hot buttered popcorn and watch Law & Order: Special Victims Unit. At the time, I was cheering on Mariska Hargitay's badass character, Detective Benson, and secretly hoping for a Benson Stabler romance. The show had this way of making you feel comforted. You flip on the TV every week to find a fresh new case and by the end of the episode, the case is solved, bam, like a gruesome happily ever after. But this weekly routine started to produce some strange side effects for me. When we'd click off the TV at the end of an episode, my body would buzz with anxiety.
At first, I kind of told myself that that was normal. The spine tingling feeling you get after watching any great show, but then I started having trouble falling asleep and when I did fall asleep, I had a recurring nightmare of being out on my morning jog, lost in my music and endorphins and then someone would jump out of the woods and kidnap me. It's not so funny as a woman to have these kinds of nightmares. Finally, I just couldn't take it anymore. I told Scott, he was welcome to enjoy the latest episode alone, but I would be enjoying a sweet romance novel in the other room, or I would go upstairs and watch something else and he was super disappointed and didn't want to break up our nightly routine, but you know, he respectfully understood. So that night, I drifted to sleep with visions of two people falling in love at a bed and breakfast instead of someone being bludgeoned to death in a park. So blissful. So, it's really important to evaluate what things in your environment are toxic and sweep that hot mess out of your life, even TV shows.
So it's funny because one of my dearest friends, Melissa, is a writer for lifetime movies and she writes those terrifying thrillers about stalking or kidnapping and all kinds of other horrific happenings and Melissa, she's a big fan of the Bare book and when she got to the chapter on environmental detox, she told me she had this sinking feeling of dread. She's good at compartmentalizing her movies from her real life. She thinks about her characters clinically like a therapist and leaves them on the page. That's so fascinating, isn't it? But Melissa realized that the research phase for her movies, specifically coming up with new ideas, was quite toxic for her. She was constantly on the hunt for new ideas and would often spend hours before bedtime reading and consuming horrifying forums on Reddit. Her Google search history scared her husband, Gary, and she listened to true crime podcasts on her daily hikes.
Nearly everyone in her life was eager to tell her grizzly tales in the hopes that they would inspire a future movie. It was all too much and so Melissa started to drastically reduce the consumption of this kind of media. She stopped reading about murder before bed. She started watching comedies or playing online chess instead and she fills her ears with music during her hikes instead of death. She quickly changes the subject when people like me start to tell her their own sordid tales. So sure, Melissa has to spend a portion of her time researching, that's not going to change, but it doesn't need to consume her whole life. Melissa needed to clean up, but it wasn't an all or nothing situation. She was able to sweep out the toxicity without completely upending her entire career. So how about you? Is there something in your environment that's toxic? If so, get to cleaning and like Melissa, you don't need to change everything. You can make small shifts and still reshape your mood in a major way.
Many of my clients, when they do what I call an environmental detox, notice that they sometimes have a bookshelf full of toxic messaging, like diet culture is wildly violent and toxic and I bet you, dear listener, if you went over to your bookshelf or your bedside table or wherever you keep books, I bet you've got some old standards in there about how to lose belly fat or whatever the latest fad is, intermittent fasting, Keto, paleo, Atkins, you name it. You want to go look at that stuff and is it serving you? Is it making you a better person? Or does it create an extra job for you and distract you from what's really important in your world? So it could be you need to detox your bookshelf. It could be you need to detox your friends circle. It could be that you need to set boundaries with people in your life.
I'm going to invite you to go through an entire week and make note of anything that drains your energy. It could be what you see with your eyes so what you consume through the media, what you read, what you watch. It could be what you take in through your ears so the kinds of music you're listening to, it could be podcasts that you listen to, it could be conversations that you're part of. Do they fill you up or do they drain you? Really, really spend some time and get to cleaning and like, Melissa, you don't have to change everything. You can make small shifts and still reshape your mood in a major way.
All right, it's time for some community wins. This is the part of the show where I love to brag on y'all and today I'm want to give a shout out to a few members of my mastermind. So I have two different masterminds. I have ON THE 6, which is for entrepreneurs who are trying to build a business and achieve their first six figures in business. I also have another one called The Mastermind and this is for entrepreneurs who have already hit their first six figures and they're attempting to scale to multiple six and seven figures. I have to tell you, in both masterminds this month, it has been money mindset May. So you're probably listening to this in June and let me tell you, these groups are on fire and a couple of my members, for example, Shannon reported that she's only $2,500 away from her goal of $20,000 cash this month.
Then another mastermind member said that she's only 9K away from her $24,000 goal and she's like, "Success is not just doable. It's inevitable," which of course is something we like to say, making sales inevitable. I'm so proud of y'all. I could spend another 10 minutes rattling off success stories from my mastermind clients, but I'll save some of those that are remaining for next week. Also, if you're looking to join a group of like-minded women, check out the show notes. You can check out my mastermind programs and right now you could, for free, join the Go Time Facebook group. There's all kinds of free resources in there, lots of tips on business, marketing, sales, pricing, and communication. So just search for Go Time with Susan Hyatt on Facebook, and you can join the group.
Hey, if you liked this episode, go ahead and subscribe so that you get notified when new episodes of Rich Coach Club are available and my heart would completely burst open if you left a review for this show on ‎Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, wherever you listen to podcasts and today I have a five star review from Susan Donnelley. Susan entitled this, "Listen and re-listen. I love Susan Hyatt's Rich Coach Club. Every episode gives me something inspiring and actionable. There's just one a week so to get my fix, I often replay past episodes and guess what? I hear all new things or hear it in a new way and get more new ideas. They're treasures that never stop giving." Susan, I can't thank you enough for that podcast review. Every week, when I sit down to record, I'm thinking about ideal clients like you, and I'm trying to come up with resources and content that you love so it means a lot to me that you took the time to leave that review so thank you so much.
Hey, if you've got something to say, go say it and let us know. Mork and my new pup Mindy are sending tons of puppy kisses your way.
One more thing before you go. In my book Bare, we do an exercise called Choose One Thing. It's about choosing one small thing in your environment you want to clean up. A book, a pile of papers, an old pair of jeans, a scale, whatever it is, just get rid of that one thing and feel an instant boost of pride and energy. I would love to challenge you to do that and report back tag me what you did.
Thank you for listening to this episode of the Rich Coach Club podcast. I hope this episode has inspired you to pay close attention to what you're taking in and clear out the things that feel so toxic. Thanks again for listening and I'll see you next week.

 

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