Susan Hyatt (00:00):
Is there something you wish you had the nerve to do? Welcome to, you've Got Nerve, the podcast that teaches you how to conquer your fears, upgrade your mindset, and get up the nerve to go after whatever you want. If you wish you had the guts to go all in on your goals, dreams, and desires, this show is for you. I'm master certified life coach Susan Hyatt, and I am so excited for you to join me on this journey. Oh, hey, in today's episode, I am fresh off of a weekend of dodging hurricanes and battling rogue flat tires, and I've been reminded of the incredible power of pivoting the art, of keeping one's cool, and the hope that something better might just be waiting right around the bend. So listen, after a dreamy v i P day in Napa with a client, I was all excited and geared up to join my husband, Scott, a k a, the silver Fox, to celebrate his 60th birthday weekend.

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And listen, this weekend was a surprise for him. He was so cute. You may recall from a previous episode, I planned a surprise 60th birthday dinner with all his racing buddies when we were out at Road America. And I pulled off quite a surprise for him that weekend, and he thought all the birthday was done. And when I told him I was going to do a v I P day in Napa, and he said, when are you coming home? And I said, not for a week. He was like, what? Why not? And I said, surprise, because you're going to meet me in the DC area for the weekend. We're going to go to the Maryland coast because I have a V I P day on Monday. But in between those two v I P days, those book-ended v i p days. We're going to celebrate your birthday in style.

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So he was so stoked. We both landed at the Washington Dulles Airport. And guess what? Mother Nature, mother Nature had other plants with a tropical storm making its dramatic entrance on the coast of Maryland. It was clear we needed a plan B. But here's the thing about me. When life throws curve balls, I don't just dodge, I'm going to dance with them. Because pivoting isn't just about changing direction. It's about your mindset. It's the belief that when one door closes, or in my case when storms rage, there's not just another door, but a whole mansion of possibilities waiting to be explored. So when my perfectly laid out plans crumbled, listen, the cutest beach house in a really chill location, I rented a sailboat excursion for me and Scott. I mean, I had it all planned, a hike. When that all crumbled, I stood there in baggage claim and I didn't sulk.

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Instead, I thought, all right, universe challenge fucking accepted. Let's make an even better plan. So here we are, Scott and I in baggage claim, talking to the Airbnb owner, pivoting our plans, we bid a due to the storm and we found ourselves in the car Googling where we might go. I did a Facebook Live and asked my audience, Hey y'all, where are we going to go? Within two hours of the DC area inland away from the storm. And people were making some fantastic recommendations. And so one of the recommendations was Harper's Ferry, West Virginia. So we headed there. There was one bed and breakfast there with an opening that night, and we took it and we, I mean, what an adventure. They had amazing food. The room we rented, we were calling the Harry Potter Hobbit room. It was like you had to go through this little tunnel to get to your room.

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It was fine. It was very charming. And then the next day we got back in the car and found ourselves headed to charming Middleburg, Virginia, where we stayed at the luxurious Salamander resort in Virginia's Blue Ridge mountains, right in the heart of horse and wine country. It was stunning, stunning, even better than the original place I booked for us to stay. And I had to laugh that I went coast to coast to the West Coast wine country, to the East Coast wine country, and I'm not even really a drinker, but it was gorgeous. And just when things though started to go pretty smoothly, our rental car got a flat tire. Scott hit a pothole. Yes, I'm blaming him. He hit a pothole and there were run flat tires. But boy did he hit that pothole, but did that dampen our spirits, Yoko? Oh, listen, I often find in life's little hiccups that there's always a silver lining.

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And for me, that silver lining was that, Hey, I got a flat. I guess I'm stuck sitting by this cozy fireplace sipping fancy tea, waiting for my night in shining armor, a k a, the rental service to deliver our new rental car. And they delivered. And if you're wondering whether our trip ended in despair, think again. Because what followed was a plate of the most divine macaroni and cheese I've ever had. Talk about turning the tables on fate. The weekend was more than just dodging storms, entire drama. It reminded me that life has a strange way of throwing unexpected twists and turns at us. And while it's real easy to feel annoyed when things don't go as planned, these detours often lead us to places, experiences and lessons that we would've never encountered. Okay, so did I have a moment of, you got to be kidding me with that flat tire?

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I sure did. But then I was like, what are you going to do? What are you going to do? It ended up even better. My v I P D day client came to the salamander and we had that macaroni and cheese and that fire side, and everything was better than before. So here are five ways to feel better about changing course. The first is, you've got to accept that you need to change direction. This is the biggest one, because sometimes despite our best efforts, plans shift, I had spent hours planning that Maryland coast surprise birthday weekend for Scott. I was pissed, but I quickly, as soon as I moved into acceptance, like, okay, this is off the table, instead of resisting, I leaned into the change. So remember that a change in direction doesn't mean you've lost your way. It might be a new path leading you to the same destination or maybe even a better one.

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Scott and I were both like, you know what? When we were driving to Harper's Ferry, we were like, this feels like when we were newlyweds, and we would just take off in the car with no plan and go on a little day trip or a weekend road trip. And Scott goes, yeah, well, except this time we're driving A B M W and going to a five star resort. But it is the same in the spirit of it all. The second is shift your mindset around change. So change is a constant in life. Instead of viewing it as a disruption, see it as a natural part of your journey. So embrace it as an opportunity for growth, for learning and exploration. So the first is accept that you need to change direction. Second, shift your mindset around that change. We could have shifted direction and still been mad about it, right?

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Instead, we were like, you know what? We're on a grand adventure. This is just like when we were newlyweds. The third is to take care of yourself, because when things go upside down, it's more important than ever to prioritize self-care. Whether that means eating a comfort meal, meditating, going for a run, getting a spa treatment, just having quiet time, whatever you like, putting yourself first helps you navigate change with greater ease. So I for sure was doing all of those things for myself during this pivot and all of these changes, right? Just coming off of a client v i p day and anticipating the next client's arrival, and having all of this shifting and changing during my downtime, I was still making sure that I was taking care of myself. The second to last is recognize the courage and pivoting. It really does take a lot of personal courage to acknowledge when a change is needed and to make that change.

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So celebrate this courage. Remember that every time you embrace a detour, you're building resilience and strengthening your ability to handle future challenges. So I was teaching this class yesterday to my retreat Genius participants. And so for those of you who don't know, I launched a retreat training program called Retreat Genius. And I was talking to them about what happened landing in Washington DC and being like, well, got to make a change. And because I've done this in this business for 16 and a half years, I have a lot of experience with pivoting. And so standing there at baggage claim, I was like, well, time to pivot, right? It's so much easier now because I've built up that resilience. And so be gentle with yourself as you're getting the courage to make pivots and pivoting. Just know that in the future it'll be easier. And then trust in the journey.

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Even when the path seems unclear, believe that better things are ahead. Every detour, no matter how unexpected brings with it, lessons growth, and sometimes even blessings in disguise. So I was talking with a client last hour just before I recorded this, and she was talking about a quote she was embracing this week that is Blanche from the Golden Girls. Said It, every kick is a boost. And I was like, wow. What if we approached the journey that way? Every kick is a boost. So the next time life's plans go a little wonky because they will take a deep breath. And remember, it's all part of the journey. Every kick is a boost. Welcome the detours with open arms and hold onto the belief that delightful surprises, whether they come in the form of a cozy fireplace moment, a delectable meal, or an entirely new and thrilling adventure. But that's just around the bend because life isn't about sticking rigidly to a plan as much as those of us who like a plan want it to be that way. It's not. It's about savoring the journey detours and all.

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So if there's one place where embracing life's detours is celebrated, it's at Finish Strong. Now, some of you have signed up, some of you got those V I P spots. The V V I P did sell out, but we do still have regular tickets and virtual tickets. It's happening October 6th through the eighth in Savannah, Georgia, or virtually online. So let's celebrate the unexpected turns that make our lives so rich and fulfilling. We're going all in this year, diving deep into the art of the pivot. We're celebrating life's twist and turns, and the, oops, I didn't see that coming moments. And better yet, you'll walk away with strategies to flip those pivots into goldmines. So get your ticket@finishstrongevent.com, and I'll see you on the fun side of the detour.

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