The Nerve to Break Things

Have you ever spent countless hours, days, or even years on something, only to watch it crumble before your eyes? It’s like baking the perfect soufflé and then having it collapse the moment you take it out of the oven. Heartbreaking, right?
But here’s the thing: Throughout history, the most triumphant stories aren’t about things going perfectly. They’re about things breaking and the tenacious spirit of those who refused to be broken with them.

In this solo episode of You’ve Got Nerve, I’m sharing how to turn breakdowns into breakthroughs.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • What my husband Scott broke, and how he persevered
  • Inspiring examples of people who didn’t let what was “broken” derail their dreams
  • A personal story about a time my own company was broken, and how I dealt with it 
  • Why we need to normalize breaking things

…and so much more!

If you’re holding back, terrified of failing, messing up, or breaking things, this episode is for you!

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My annual event - Finish Strong - is just around the corner!

My husband Scott will be there, and if you need a gentle kick in the booty - a sign that you should KEEP GOING, even when things break, he’s definitely someone you’ll wanna meet!

It all goes down on October 6th through the 8th in Savannah, GA (or you can join us virtually from anywhere in the world!)

Whatever you want to make happen by the end of 2023 is within your power. All you need to do is get your cheeks in the seats at FINISH STRONG.

Get your ticket here => https://go.susanhyatt.co/fs2023 

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Susan Hyatt (00:00):
Is there something you wish you had the nerve to do? Welcome to, you've Got Nerve, the podcast that teaches you how to conquer your fears, upgrade your mindset, and get up the nerve to go after whatever you want. If you wish you had the guts to go all in on your goals, dreams, and desires, this show is for you. I'm master certified life coach Susan Hyatt, and I am so excited for you to join me on this journey.

Hi, I'm here with a solo episode because y'all, I've got a little secret about my husband, Scott Hyatt, otherwise known as the Silver Fox. Now he's not in timeout again, although there have been some really close calls recently, like when he interrupted my peaceful meditation by blaring an action movie from upstairs. Seriously, I want to shower a little praise on him though in this episode because Scott Hyatt exemplifies commitment and devotion. He won't like me telling you this whole story, but it deserves to be told Scott is really into restoring old race cars. And so I mean, from the time he was a little kid, he learned mechanics. He worked at a welding shop in high school. He loves cars. And as life does, when we got married, started having children, it just wasn't part of his everyday life anymore. So I want to say it was about 13 years ago, he bought a shell of a race car.

Listen, he sent me a picture, I'll never forget it, of 12 year old Ryan standing front of this shell of a Dotson Z. It's a 1974 Dotson Z car. And he was like, can I bring this home? And I said, no. And it showed up at our house anyway, and it took him seven years to restore it. So by 2018, he had fully restored this 1974 dots and Z, and it was a really proud moment. In fact, I remember writing a blog entitled, I've Never Seen Him Smile like this, because when he cranked that thing up for the first time to take it for a spin, it literally, I stood on the sidewalk and cried. Because I mean, honestly, how often, I mean as a life coach, I encourage us all to lean into what we loved as kids and try to get back to that.

But not very many people do it. So to see him living out a childhood dream of racing a car is pretty epic. So listen, he joined a vintage race car club. He started racing five, six times a year. It's a whole thing. I even one year for his birthday had his big trailer Decaled with silver fox racing. That was all happy times until the engine broke in 2021. I mean, broke, broke, broke. And it was more dramatic than an episode of Virgin River. Alright, false starts, red herrings all the trappings of a great mystery. Listen, it would make a great Netflix series, but he finally got it all fixed up and put back together. But the point of this is Scott built something, he put his blood, sweat, tears, and money behind something and it broke. But he persevered. He didn't give up. He plowed ahead until the problem was handled.

So let me ask you, have you ever spent countless hours, days or years on something only to watch it break crumble before your eyes? I'm not a baker, but I hear it's like baking the perfect souffle and then having it collapse the moment you take it out of the oven. Heartbreaking, right? But here's the thing. Throughout history, the most triumphant stories aren't about things going perfectly, darn it all. They're about things breaking and the tenacious spirit of those who refuse to be broken with them. So I want to share with you today some examples of inspiring people who turn their breakdowns into breakthroughs. Imagine failing over 10,000 times. Most of us would throw in the towel way before that, but not Thomas Edison, right? While attempting to perfect the light bulb. He faced thousands of non successes as he put it. And yet it was his unwavering resilience that brought us the light we know today.

In Edison's words, I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work. And if that doesn't scream perseverance, I don't know what does. And of course, we have my godmother, Ms. Oprah Winfrey, starting from her very troubled and traumatic childhood, she built a career in media only to face ratings, challenges, harsh criticism. She was even told she wasn't fit for tv. Things were not an easy, smooth, and straight line for Oprah. However, she persevered turning the Oprah Winfrey show into a powerhouse, forming her own network and becoming an inspiration to millions before becoming America's first self-made female millionaire. Madam CJ Walker faced a lot of hardships. Her experience with hair loss led her to create her own line of haircare products. And despite societal and skepticism, she built a beauty empire. Have y'all seen the series on Madam CJ Walker? If not, I think it's on Netflix.

Google that shit. It's good. Her story is a testament to how personal struggles can become the seed of a thriving business when met with commitment and devotion. Okay? Most people know that Steve Jobs was once fired from Apple, the very company he co-founded. Instead of wallowing over his broken career jobs, used this setback to fuel his ambition, founding other companies such as Pixar, and eventually returning to Apple, bringing the company to new heights. So if jobs had let that firing get to him, we might be living in a very different tech world. And throughout my own journey, I've dedicated time and energy to creating things only to watch them fall apart right before my eyes. One of the most profound examples of this is the evolution of this. My company, over the years, my company's gone through several transformations, facing highs and lows, ups and downs.

But there was a pivotal moment when it seems so broken that I genuinely wondered if I could ever piece it back together. And during that time, I drew inspiration from the stories I just gave you and also many other stories of relentless individuals who had weathered storms far bigger than mine. I rooted my choices in joy and pleasure relying on what truly resonated with me, what lit me up. And I never felt ashamed or embarrassed when things broke. This is key. So often people hold back from pursuing their dreams, building their visions, or taking risks because they're paralyzed by the fear of failing and failing publicly and of feeling humiliated if things break. But let's be real. Life is messy. Running a business is challenging. And lemme tell you something, people who have never had a business themselves or who have never managed a team of employees who have never done the things you're trying to do, love to sit back and say how you could have done it differently.

But building anything is a glorious, messy, chaotic journey. And yes, things are going to break. Your creation may fall apart, your ideas may fail, your launch might flop, your book may not sell, the world might not get it at first. We need to normalize the wreckage and consider it part of the process of growth because none of us should be ashamed or afraid to try. Because within that brokenness lies an opportunity, an opportunity to rebuild, to rethink, to rise stronger than before. So the next time your souffle or dream project collapses, try to remember these stories. Let them light the path forward. The break just might lead to your breakthrough.

Okay, here's the sitch. My annual event finished strong is just around the corner and Scott will be there. And if you need a gentle kick in the booty, a sign that you should just keep going, even when things break, he is definitely someone you're going to want to meet. So it all goes down October 6th through the eighth in Savannah, Georgia. Or if you're unable to travel, I give good virtual y'all. There's virtual tickets where you can tune in from anywhere in the world. And listen, it's not one of those situations where we just prop up a camera in the corner and let it run. No, we have an mc for the virtual audience. We have entertainment for the virtual audience. Everyone gets an amazing swag box shipped to their house. So whatever you want to make happen by the end of 2023, it's within your power. And all you got to do is get your cheeks in the seats at Finish Strong. You can visit finish strong event.com to snap up your tickets, and I hope to see you there.

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