Are you living your former self’s dream?

Recently, I had a particularly crummy day. I was in my head despite my best self-coaching.

I marched upstairs in a huff-determined to do something-a bath, meditation, scream into a pillow, anything! -to turn this day around. 

As I passed the framed photos hanging above my banister, one in particular caught my eye.

It’s a photo of me, my husband Scott, my son Ryan, and daughter Cora-from 2005.

We’re standing on a beach, wind whipping our hair, wearing matching white and muted pastels. 

That was a happy day, but smiles were in limited supply for me back then. As a stressed-out wife, mom, and residential real estate agent-“struggle” was my middle name. 

As I stared at that old photo, I realized: 

I am living my former self’s dream. 

In today’s episode, I’m diving into how to handle the crummy days, the setbacks, and disappointments by digging into your past. 

This is a good one- let’s get into it!

Clients often come to me feeling frustrated and disappointed about something in their life.

They have a goal, but haven’t made much progress. They’re not where they feel they“should be.”

They had huge expectations for a business launch, but ended up in the red-losing money.

They made a scene, but received negative backlash that crippled their confidence.

In these moments, it’s tempting to wallow in self-pity and low quality thoughts. You want to let it go, but that’s not exactly easy to do.

Every single person in the world has disappointments and discouraging experiences. Instead of feeling down when these things happen, it’s important to normalize them. 

Failures, rejections, criticisms-these are all positive indicators that you are doing something RIGHT. You are taking risks, making bold moves, chasing your dreams, and standing up for what you believe in.

All wonderful things!

And, to prove that to yourself, all you’ve gotta do is dig back into the past.

When I look at “2005 Susan”-that exhausted, stressed and totally-burnt out version of“me”-I know what I wanted back then.

To become a self-made millionaire, doing important, fulfilling, life-changing work.

To find body liberation and prioritize joy.

To create wealth in all areas of my life-bank account, time, freedom,and peace. 

Whenever I have a bad day (and LISTEN y’all-2021 has been riddled with them!) -I look back at myself in 2005 and think:

“Dayumm-I am living my former self’s dream!”

I bet you are, too.

Even if you haven’t achieved your “exact” goals and dreams over the years, I know that you’ve evolved, grown and changed.

When you’re having a bad day, take a moment and CELEBRATE that growth instead of wallowing in negativity. 

Maybe fifteen years ago you didn’t even know what a life coach was-and today you’ve started your own practice.

Maybe a decade ago, you had a dream to write a book-and today you have a solid rough draft. Hello-productivity!

Maybe five years ago, you attended a conference. That event connected you to your business besties who are your biggest support system to date.

Focus on those seeds planted in the past-and how far you’ve come.

The past holds all of the wisdom you need to create a joyful future. 

In this episode, you'll learn:

  • Why we need to normalize disappointment and discouraging experiences. 
  • Why failures and rejections show that you’re on the right path. 
  • How to turn a bad day into a celebration.

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FULL EPISODE TRANSCRIPT:

Susan Hyatt:
Welcome to The Rich Coach Club, the podcast that teaches you how to build your dream coaching practice and how to significantly increase your income. If you're a coach and if you're determined to start making more money, this show is for you. I'm master certified life coach Susan Hyatt, and I am psyched for you to join me on this journey.
Hey coaches, recently, I had a particularly crappy day. I was in my head despite all my best self coaching. It happens to all of us. I marched upstairs in a huff, determined to do something. A bath, meditation, scream into my pillow, anything to turn this day around. And as I passed the framed photos hanging above my banister, one in particular caught my eye. It's a photo of me my husband Scott, my son Ryan, and my daughter Cora from 2005. And we're standing on a beach, wind whipping our hair, wearing matching white and muted pastels. That was a happy day, but smiles were in limited supply for me back then, at least authentic smiles. I was a stressed out wife, mom, residential real estate agent, and struggle was my middle name. And I stared at that old photo. I looked right into 2005 Susan's eyes and I realized I am living my former self's dream. In today's episode, I'm diving into how to handle the crappy days, the setbacks and the disappointments by digging into your past. This is a good one so let's get into it.
Clients often come to me feeling frustrated and disappointed about something in their life. They have a goal, but they haven't made much progress. They're just not where they feel like they quote unquote should be. And they had huge expectations for a business launch, but ended up in the red losing money. They made a scene, but received negative backlash that crippled their confidence. So in these moments, it's tempting to wallow in self pity and low quality thoughts. And you want to let it go, but that's not exactly easy to do sometimes. Every single person in the world has disappointments and discouraging experiences, all of us. Instead of feeling down when these things happen, it's just important to normalize them. Failures, rejections, criticisms, these are all positive indicators that you're doing something right. You're taking risks. You're making bold moves, chasing your dreams and standing up for what you believe in. Those are all wonderful things. And to prove that to yourself, all you've got to do is dig back into the past.
When I look at 2005 Susan, that exhausted, stressed, and totally burnt out version of me. I know what I wanted back then. I wanted to become a self-made millionaire, doing important, fulfilling, life changing work. I wanted to find body liberation and prioritize joy. Think about that, body liberation and joy. I wanted to create wealth in all areas of my life, not just my bank account, but also time, freedom and peace. And whenever I have a bad day... And listen y'all, 2021 has been riddled with them. Let me tell you how yesterday started. I found out that doggie daycare was going to be closed this week due to staffing issues. And I think probably more than half of their team has COVID.
And I had to go pick up my dogs, they were boarded while we were in the Hamptons, went to pick them up from boarding and knew that they're going to be... They're with me right now, recording this podcast. They're going to be with me while I'm teaching all day today. So I'm trying to think high quality thoughts about that. But at any rate, when I picked them up, for some reason, little Mindy started projectile vomiting all over the backseat. I'm talking y'all, I was gagging. I almost had to pull the car over. It was so terrible.
Shit like that is just going to happen. Employees quit, employees get fired, your dog projectile vomits in the backseat. But listen, I think back, I look back at myself in 2005 and think, damn, I am living my former self's dream. I am living my dream. I work for myself. I travel when I want, I have the money to do what I want. I sleep peacefully. I enjoy simple pleasures. I am living my former self's dream and I bet you are too. Even if you haven't achieved your exact goals and dreams over the years, I know that you've evolved, grown, and changed. So when you're having a bad day, take a moment and celebrate that growth instead of wallowing in negativity. Maybe 15 years ago, you didn't even know what a life coach was. And today you've started your own practice. Maybe a decade ago, you had a dream to write a book and today you have a solid rough draft.
Hello productivity, maybe five years ago you attended a conference, that event connected you to your business besties, who are your biggest support system today. For example, years ago, I was in a dispute with a woman over a couple of my tag lines. Life is delicious, make a scene. And so I was so frustrated. It was such a crummy day when I got into that email exchange and I hired a trademark attorney and her name was Rachel Rogers. And that negative situation turned into a beautiful friendship colleague-ship client-ship. So you never know what your crummy is going to lead to. Focus on those seeds planted in the past and how far you've come. The past holds all of the wisdom you need to create a joyful future. So I want you to think about that. And I want you to make a list of all the things that maybe your teenage self or your young adult self or yourself five years ago wanted and see how many things you can find of those dreams that you're currently living.
I can remember thinking also, for example, I was a stay at home mom for a few years and I can remember driving this aqua blue Dodge Caravan, used, probably had a hundred thousand miles on it when I bought it. And I can remember thinking, I just want to have enough money to not have a car payment and be able to make my mortgage and buy organic food. I was like, let me just make enough money so I don't have to worry. And what's interesting as we all know, all y'all coaches listening, it's not the amount of money you make that creates worry. It's not any of that.
But all that being said, today I am living that dream, I am living that dream. Not only am I ordering delicious, healthy food, I'm having it delivered. So think about all the things that you wished you could have done. I can remember wishing when I walked through the mall that I had money to walk into Banana Republic and shop. I'm like, one day I'm going to be able to go into banana Republic and buy whatever I want. And so think about that. Think about all the ways that you created a life where you're living your former self's dream.
All right. It's time for me to brag on some people. This is the part called Community Wins. And some of these folks I brag about, it's a repeat, it's on repeat. I can't stop bragging about them. And I think I've bragged about Amy Stone before. So Amy is one of our University for Life Coach Training graduates, soon to be certified. And she's also in the On The Six Mastermind and she's a new member of the mastermind. And we do this thing every week where we have an accountability check-in in the mastermind. And she on her accountability check-in posted three of the things that she accomplished last week. And she said, "I rescheduled all appointments to work with family travel. I made sales offers daily and I completed week one of the Quick Start work." Awesome. "I had one practice client sign up for a six week paid coaching package." Isn't that awesome. She has her first client that was a practice client. That is so amazing. That's how it's done friend.
She said, "I didn't do as many consults as I hoped to because of travel. But she did have time to work on her new lead magnet. She worked on her Quick Start stuff and she wrote a podcast script. Listen, I'm sharing this to brag about Amy, because these are all the things that people don't see that we're all working on behind the scenes. Juggling family, hopefully enjoying some family travel, but still putting the offers out there and getting your first client. Amy, I'm so proud of you. I can't wait to see what else you create. And Hey, if you want to be part of a mastermind and a community where we cheer each other on, hold each other accountable, create challenges, tell you what you need to know to create a thriving profitable business, check out the On The Six Mastermind in the show notes.
All right, here we are. It's time for me to brag about one of the five star reviews someone loved me on this podcast. So listen, if you listen to this podcast and enjoy it, I appreciate you so much. I want to invite you to also leave a review and I might send you something in the snail mail. So Sandy left me a five star review. And she said, this is specifically about the Joy Versus Drama podcast from July 18th. So she said, "Wow, I give this group, this podcast, this presenter, Susan Hyatt, five stars. She is real and truthful and says things that resonate and bring up so many other thoughts for change. Her creativity and high energy are contagious. And when I can, I will seek her as my own life coach." I'm here for it, Sandy.
"I'm following her every day for inspiration I get from her words, her pictures, and her posts. I'm reading her Bare book now, Bare by Susan Hyatt. I also give the book five stars. Good, good stuff. I love her more with each interaction." Sandy, I also know you're on my community text, which I love. And so for those of you who also want text motivational support, it's free. I send out a text probably once or twice a week and you can text me at 812-408-1823. And when you text me, you'll register for a Monday motivational text. I also send pics of Mork and Mindy and Moses. And I might wish you a happy birthday, all that kind of stuff.
One more thing before you go, if you're still wallowing in a negative place, break out an entire box of old photo albums or yearbooks. Nothing boosts your mood like a trip down memory lane. The haircuts, the fashion, the music, the high school drama. Sometimes a good laugh is just what you need. Thank you so much for listening to this episode

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