Only two months into 2023, and y’all, my feet are sweating from the incredible results my clients are reporting. 

From inking a multi-book deal with a major publisher to relocating to their dream destination to leaving an abusive relationship to getting up the courage to start their own business, my clients are saying “yes” to themselves and making big shifts. 

Most importantly, all of this magic is happening without sacrificing their lives. 

You really can create what you want. 

But you have to ask yourself: 

Will saying “yes” to this [thing I want] interfere with the lifestyle I really want to live?

A motto I live by and something I teach my clients every day is:

Chasing after big goals and dreams often leads people to say “yes” to every opportunity that swings their way, resulting in a spectacular case of burnout, depletion, and exhaustion. 

I know this because I used to be the woman who went Business First, Lifestyle Second. 

Early mornings. Extremely late nights. Shoveling food in my mouth while answering emails. Hunching over a laptop. Missing important moments and memories in my personal life. Canceling plans. 

I ticked all the boxes of professional success. 

And I was deeply miserable.  

This is something new clients echo to me all the time. 

My business is exploding, and my family is thriving, but I’m exhausted and have no time for myself. 

I’ve got all of these amazing business opportunities, but I’m constantly away from my family, and I feel lonely and sad. 

My revenue is skyrocketing, and my business is rapidly scaling, but it feels like I have no life anymore. 

When you are trapped in this mode, no matter how much success you have, it’s a never-ending hustle. And it never feels like the right time to LIVE YOUR LIFE because you’re always chasing an opportunity, fulfilling an obligation, or putting out fires. 

This is no way to live. 

The interesting thing is, when you flip the equation and put your lifestyle first, you actually begin to enjoy the success you’ve created… and have the energy to create more (if that’s what you want to do). 

If you want to change your life for the better, you’ve got to put your lifestyle first. 

Build the lifestyle you want FIRST, then use that as a litmus test for what you want to say “yes” to. 

I want you to strive for your goals, achieve the success you desire… and live your best life. 

Life first. Business second. 

And that’s an order.